“Losingfamily obliges us to find our family…The only thing left to say will be ‘I wishI had seen this’ or ‘I wish I had done that’… ” The word family, in today’sgeneration, means so much more than we think. No longer does it mean simplyfather, mother, sibling, etc. It now ties the terms foster parent, friend,classmate, teacher, neighbor, fans, etc. under the umbrella. We no longer livein a world where “normal” makes sense. There isn’t a “normal” way of beinganymore. The phrase has evolved into so many different meanings now that it ishard to tell them apart anymore.
When we tie in these differentmeanings of “family,” we strive to find it anywhere in our lives. It is a senseof belonging and allows us to be a part of something, a group, a team, a unitof love, liking, or understanding that we may not get elsewhere. We lose it andthe situation shakes our world until we are able to grab on again to possiblyanother family. We become lost and ever searching for the companionship ofothers that are most like us. Finding our family is like finding ourselves. Wefind our best partners, our greatest supporters, and our finest moments. Ourfamily is the biggest reflection of who we are as individuals. They are themirrors we often avoid yet strive to always look into.
When we start regretting things inour past or even in our present, we often find the words, “What if…?” mostcomforting. There is always something else we could have done or said to easeour minds and our hearts. In these situations we, more often than not, shutpeople out or push them away just so we can bottle our regrets within ourselvesand not allow anyone else to see the reflection we give to ourselves. Realfamily is always there to give us the true reflection that we need.
Death, new beginnings, forgottenpasts, change, new futures can all be unfortunate times when we lose ourfamily. But in these losses, we then struggle and endeavor to find them againin the most unknown locations. No matter whom they may be. A friendly neighborwho clips flowers for us, a teacher that becomes a mentor, a foster parent thatgives us hope for a brighter future, a fellow fan that greets us at every gamewith a smile, a friend that lends a shoulder or a hand when we need it most. Wefind them yesterday, today, and tomorrow. For it is when we find our familythat we find ourselves.